Marriage after kids lets now be honest by Bloom Baby Classes
If someone had told me ten years ago how our lives would change having kids I would of replied - not us no way!
Remember those pre kids days?
Date nights I would spend taking hours upon hours getting ready. Looking amazing - if i do say so myself, feeling fabulous. Eating out in fancy restaurants, talking all night till the early hours with the man of my life. Romantic walks hand in hand.
Fast forward 11 years and the reality? The lie in’s are a distant memory. We don’t go out. We can’t be arsed to be fair. Even on a rare occasion we are girl free we prefer to just stay in. As for talking until the early hours. Some nights we rarely speak. New underwear ? I wear maternity knickers still and my youngest daughter is 6!. (They are comfortable ok?!)
The constant loved up text messaging from a decade ago is now “can you bring me sanitary towels back with you, with wings make sure they have wings” “cat pood on carpet this is my life x” “make sure you put the cats out before bed x” and one i seem to send a lot of “cant cook tonight too tired bring fooooood x”
Things have changed but have they changed for the worse?
Children change everything, absolutely everything they changed my life. They have changed my husbands life. Yes life isn’t as glamorous but its definitely richer. Our children and their happiness is now our reason for being. There has never been such a huge amount of pressure upon us. These beings need feeding, clothing, teaching, helping, cuddling , loving and everything in-between. They have two role models and unfortunately for them its me and him.. So yes life isn’t as exciting and romantic but it worth all this effort.
And yes he drives me mad and I know i drive him to despair from time to time but we are a team. My husband backs me up I have his back too. and sometimes I get text messages like this.
We are now in a different part of our lives. Together. Another stage and we must do what’s needed for us and our kids. It’s commitment. It’s frustrating. It’s repetitive but its also contentment and its another chapter of our lives. Together. I wouldn’t want to get old and flabby with anyone else.
P.s Don’t anyone please tag my husband in this.
Victoria Jennings Co/founder Bloom Baby Classes